As I’m sure some of you know, I’ve been working on my blog. Still getting it set up the way I want and all of that. I’ve decided I’d like to make a “Featured Blogs” page. If you’d like your blog to be on there just send me a comment or message with your blog link as well as some sort of short description of what your blog is about.
I’ll also be contacting some of you who run blogs that I enjoy quite a bit asking for permission to do so. 🙂
Many people try to speak up about bullying, they try to fight it and most of the time it doesn’t work. Now let’s think about why it doesn’t work. Most of the time when someone see’s a bully they begin to bully them. Calling them names, saying they’re pathetic, and many other things. That won’t get anyone anywhere. You can’t fight hate with hate. It just adds to the problem and makes you no better than that person.
The reason I’m writing this is because I saw someone who I admired for their stance on bullying begin to do exactly what they try to fight. They try to say that they live by a message of love and that they’re against bullying while the post photo’s of people on their social networks and bash them. Once I brought it up that it seemed that they were in fact a bully they tried to justify it saying “You don’t know the whole story” and people jumped in saying that they know the person and they understand why he said what he said. By that logic you’re making it seem like someone who get’s bullied for being gay deserves it because they’re in fact gay.
Now I think anyone mature enough to follow what they preach would understand what I mean. Not once did I call you a name or did I say anything negative other than “This seems like you’re bullying the person” yet that person decided to block me. I’m sure I’ll end up on your shit list by the end of the week. But it doesn’t matter, I just hope you take what I said to heart.
But I guess what I’m trying to say is simply, “If you are against bullying, then don’t bully.” It’s a very basic concept that everyone should live by. If someone bullies you don’t retaliate, it won’t get anywhere. Just simply smile and ignore it, don’t feed into the problem.
Today me and my father when to the VA hospital for one of his appointments. Just another day spent walking around a massive hospital to different areas. We ended up in the pharmacy waiting for a good amount of time just to be seen. But that’s not what this is about.
While sitting there watching the news that was on the TV, they began to cover Gay Marriage in France. Something I found positive, however not everyone is as excited as I am about it. A younger woman with her young child looked up at the TV and began to shake her head when they showed pictures of the first married couple. Her child didn’t seem phased by it and actually was somewhat intrigued. She looked down at him drawing his attention from the TV and shook her head again while mumbling something under her breath.
Now it could be unrelated to the news and she could have been reacting to something else, I won’t sit here and blatantly say that this woman took offence. However I’ve seen it before and I’d like to say a few things.
I think as a parent you have the right to raise them with similar values. To bring them up with your beliefs. However you should be careful when you do it. You don’t know whether your child will grow up to be LGBTQ or not and being hateful won’t “Keep them straight”. That’s not how that works. Honestly it will do more damage than anything.
If your child does turn out to be LGBTQ, they’ll have already picked up on your signs and have them in their head. They’ll be afraid for themselves as well as being afraid of you. It’s quite common for someone who’s gay to be extremely depressed even when their family doesn’t have much of an opinion, more or less it’s because they’re struggling with themselves. Quite a few LGBTQ youth become suicidal when they feel that they are wrong or in some way “diseased” and I don’t think any parent wants to see that.
I was lucky enough to grow up in a household where homosexuality wasn’t bashed. Honestly it wasn’t really talked about. I went through a period of feeling like something was wrong with me and a period of fear because I didn’t know where my family stood. But when I finally was out I had the love and support that any child should have.
I know anyone who is a parent against that’s against gays is going to take offence to this, and that’s completely understandable. But if you’ve made it this far let me just tell you this. I have quite a few friends who were raised in a bad environment. Most of which began to self harm and abuse different substances because they didn’t or couldn’t deal with the fear of being hated by their own parents. Some of them came out and their family’s adjusted, others didn’t. The ones who didn’t, now refuse to talk to their parents and some of the parents disowned their child. I can’t imagine anything more hurtful than that.
So please, if you have a child remember you should love them unconditionally, no exceptions. You may think you’re doing them a favor but at the same time you could be truly damaging and hurting them. I want you to have the freedom a parent should have and I think you should raise your child with your belief system, just as long as the system is friendly for everyone.
I’ve been meaning to post more on here however I just recently started working on my book again. (It’s on wattpad and if you want access to it just let me know.) It’s a LGBT NSFW book so yeah, you’ve been warned. It’s actually not super graphic like people would think. Just a few parts can get there. So far I’ve had good feedback. But anyways, once I finish this chapter I’m going to start brainstorming for my next article. Be patient! 🙂
ItsTheInterwebz is still a new blog. Not many posts, followers, or people to follow. However I am pleased with what I have. But I do have a question for everyone. What are some good blogs you follow? Anyone interesting that you think deserves more recognition? Let me know, I’m always looking for more people to follow. Just leave their URL in the comments and I’ll go check them out.
I just wanted to let everyone know that I have decided to change the name of the blog. I will still be covering LGBT news and what not, however I’ve found myself wanting to cover a larger array of things.
Previous Name = That Crowded Closet
I hope no one minds me doing so! Anyways, I hope everyone has a good night/day depending on where you’re at.
Today my brother got into the car after school with a button on his jacket. It read “Be careful who you hate, because it may be someone you love”. It threw me off, I wasn’t entirely sure as to why he was wearing the button. I know it’s GLBTQ Week and all of that good stuff but I was still confused. I asked him about it and he told me today was The Day of Silence. He told me that quite a few students including himself participated.
Now, I’m not one to get excited over silly little things but seeing him supporting me made me feel so much better about myself. He told me his girlfriend was also participating in it. To those of you who aren’t LGBT please don’t forget that you CAN support. You can participate and make people feel comfortable in their own skin. If you have a family member or a friend who is LGBT make sure you show that you’re going to stand right there with them.
I know this is kind of a pointless post, however I just wanted to share what made my day so much better.
“Be careful who you hate, because it may be someone you love”